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What boundaries have you set with your teen and dating?
I have a 14-1/2 year old
freshman daughter who was just
asked to homecoming. I am
allowing her to go, as they
are going in a large group and
I have just met the young man
for the first time. I still
maintain she's too young to
date one-on-one and she cannot
get into a car with someone
that I have not met/do not
know. What rules have you set
up with your teen and dating?
I have a 19 year old son who
did not start dating until he
was a junior/senior in high
school. He was interested in
school activities, sports and
working - so I was not
prepared for this to happen so
soon.
Please no sarcastic comments -
I am looking for parents'
replies - not other teens.
Thanks!
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I'm not a parent, so I apologize in advance for answering anyways, but I just felt that I could give some input. I, too, am 14-1/2 and a freshman. I'm an only child, so its really difficult for my parents to know what boundaries should be set in place. I wasn't allowed to go on dates other than group outings until highschool started this year, and now I can go on one-on-one dates. I'm not looking for anything serious at this age, so my parents can trust that I'm not going to do anything stupid, or in the moment. I got asked to homecoming on Friday by the one guy that I've gone on a date with this year. I'm really excited, but I understand that my parents are going to have some rules. Considering the fact that we're both 14, we can't drive, so a parent has to be in the car. My parents don't know his parents, but I was allowed to be driven home by them. My parents trust that I know which certain situations are safe, and which aren't, and I do. I won't get in a car with someone unless it feels safe- and I know that hardly seems like something to base judgement on, a feeling, but its going with your gut. My parents don't really have any other rules except that I need to make the safest, and best choices for myself, which is definitely what I do and I wouldn't want it any other way. I would let your daughter have fun, but to be on the safe side, I would ask to meet his parents first. That way you can feel things out to see how they are with the dating. I think that would be the next step. But also, don't put too much pressure on your daughter with the meeting of his parents situation since this homecoming date might not amount to anything more than just a date to a dance. Don't treat it like they're actually going to start dating. |
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What can cause carbon dating to be inaccurate?
Alright, I know there's
controversy about whether or
not it's accurate anyways, BUT
assuming that it is accurate,
what are some things that can
mess with the results of a
carbon dating test?
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Nowadays, assuming the work is done carefully, making all of the known adjustments, the only significant question is whether the C14 level in the atmosphere was always at the same level. A lot of factors could make a difference, like major variations in volcanic activity or the strength of the earth's magnetic field. |
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How do I stop my son from dating a woman with small breasts?
My son is turning 18 soon and
has recently begun dating.
However his first girlfriend
has very small breasts,
probably an A-cup. Now god
bless his heart, he loves her
ever so much, but I'd like to
set a firm precedent to avoid
future heartbreak.
I wouldn't want him to be
ridiculed by his friends and
classmates for 'going out with
a flatty' as I would have been
back in my younger years.
Unendowed females are also
generally emotionally unstable
due to low self-esteem (I
don't want a teenage drama
queen on my son's hands!)
My biggest worry is that many
years down the line, their
female children would be 'flat
chicks' as well. I'd like my
son to be a spittin' image of
his old man, and to help him
avoid some obvious mistakes.
Should I forbid him from
dating her or let him figure
it out for himself over time?
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If you feel that strongly about it, maybe you should shell out for augmentation surgery for the poor girl! for the folks giving me thumbs down, I was being sarcastic! |
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How do you work with people who are dating?
Two key people who work in our
office are openly dating. They
often leave at the same time
to run errands and take exotic
vacations together. It's
uncomfortable since I have too
work closely with both of them
- and they cover for each
other when there is missed
time. It doesn't seem fair to
the rest of us because we have
to watch what we say around
them, they cover for each
other when one leaves the
office, and sometimes they
leave together and are gone
for long periods of time. We
are a very small office so the
behavior is noticeable - and
no one else in the office is
related or dating.
I ignore it and just keep
working. But I don't approve
of it.
What would you do?
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The focus in the workplace should be on work behaviors and performance. So... you are justified in observing and being annoyed at the behaviors they are exhibiting such as being out of the office for long periods of time, etc. You would have the same issue with a single person who was doing the same thing, right? If their actions and behaviors affect you in a professional way, then you must deal with it as with any other workplace issue. Speak with either or both of them about the impact on you. As for having to watch what you say around them... well, you need to watch what you say around anyone in the office because you never know what interpersonal situations exist. Consider yourself lucky that you are aware of this relationship and can censor yourself accordingly. And just remember to keep your own attitude focused on the business impact, not on your personal opinion of the appropriateness of a workplace relationship. |
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How strict is the military on dating in the Guard and Reserves?
Hello, I am a Cadet in the
Army and will be commissioned
at the end of this school
year. My question is I met a
girl who is joining the Navy
reserves and plans to become
an officer too but won't be
able to for at least another
half school year. My question
is we have so much in common
and have a lot of fun together
but I was just wondering how
strict the reserve side would
be on dating somone from
another branch who is also in
the reserves and is planning
to become an officer but isnt
at the moment? I know there is
a good chance that I wouldnt
even half to sneek around
because in the reserves no one
would even know since it is a
once a month thing but I dont
really want to get in trouble
at all.
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There will be no problem at all. You are both officers. The problem will be that you will most likely be stationed in different parts of the world. |
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